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How to be kind

I’m back from my annual week in Myrtle Beach with my business besties.

We are all different religions.

Some are pro-vax, others are anti-vax.

We are Republicans, Democrats and Independents.

A few of us own guns, and others are for gun control.

In today’s world, you would think we shouldn’t be able to get along as well as we do.

I’ve thought long and hard about how we do it. How to be kind to one another. I watched my friends interact with each other and this is what I saw.

We listened to each other without trying to change each others minds

If someone has an opinion we don’t agree with, we listen to what they have to say. If we don’t agree we do one of two things.  We share our opinion and agree to disagree or we say nothing.

I’ve seen some of us change their minds after a discussion. If that happens, it happens.  But most times it doesn’t.

Saying nothing is an interesting concept. If someone says something you don’t agree with, why do we feel we have to argue with them? Why do we feel we have to share our opinion? Everyone has different life experiences that shape the way we look at things. The world would be boring if we all thought the same way. I’m personally trying this idea out.  I find I’m not quiet enough.

We respect each other

Respect has gone out of style. So put yourself in another person’s shoes.  You don’t have to like someone to respect them (although I do love all these women). Let’s start respecting everyone.  I have a saying I use often to help me with someone I’m not fond of. “God bless them, on their way away from me”  No bad feelings and I hope you have a great life.

We laugh with each other

I think laughter brings us all together. We all want to enjoy ourselves.  Try laughing with someone you don’t agree with. Laughter is the common ground. It’s hard to be angry with someone when you’re laughing.

 

I asked my friends to read my post and add their two cents.

Laura, Olive My Skin

Over the past year I have been practicing practicing practicing “it’s not about me”
I wont argue or try to sway your point of view. I will listen & discuss.
When people start shouting, blaming, pointing fingers, I stop. It’s not about me.
I’ve lived a lot of my life with controlling people. It made me anxious, constantly apologizing & a people pleaser.
Guess what? It’s not about me. I stay in my lane, listen & contribute to respectful conversations, otherwise I’m out.

Christine, Ba6 Marketing

I don’t have anything to add because you’ve said this so eloquently!!!

Roberta, Scrubz

What I see with our group is not only respect but a true admiration of the people we individually are.
We see each other warts and all and love each other anyway and even because of it.
And the support for each other is over the top whether in good times or bad.

Michelle, Mama Suds

Listening and learning what other people think and believe is what is great about our friendship.
Once you understand the why about someone’s beliefs, it’s easy to just listen and support them.

Sandy, The Purple Sage

I’ve come to look at our group of awesome women like a marriage. Ya know where opposites attract?  Yeah, that’s what it’s like. We are all so different.
From different parts of the country.  But yet we all have a love and mutual respect for each other…a healthy relationship and one helluva friendship.

Jennifer, Celtic Complexion

An environment that is not safe to disagree in is not an environment focused on growth, it’s focused on control. We allow our friendships the space to grow. That alone is worth it’s weight on gold!

 

 

 

I’d love to know what you think.

 

Yours in Gratitude,

Angela

 

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